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• What they like to watch on television
• What they say and do when they get angry
• What you say and do when you get angry
• What their political views are
• Whether they like dogs, cats, birds, tropical hish or no pets at all
• Whether your potential partner seems to be someone who wants
the more dominant role in a relationship And about a million other things...
As you discover what makes your new partner “tick” — to be as unromantic as I can possibly be — you are “collecting data” about how compatible you are. When the components of attraction are there at the start, it won’t matter if you are compatible or not. Further into your relationship compatibility might play a larger role. The research is not crystal clear as to whether “opposites attract” or “samles attract,” but I don’t think that is the metric that counts. I think the key is “tolerance.” After we get to know one another what contributes to keeping us together is in large measure, “tolerance for disappointment.” And after that, of course, how we mend those disappointments.
Moving backwards to the beginning of the relationship, anything that that partners share in common becomes:
“We like the same things!”
Without maintenance this becomes:
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