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played. He called her playing “gifted” and “heavenly.” After two years he would walk around the house with headphones (Even when she was not playing, what does that tell you?) and eventually in their divorce papers her playing sounded and felt like “nails on a chalk board.”
When people get to know one another, what once made them special and unique, often makes them irritating, and in the worst circumstances intolerable.
The cook whose beef stew was “the best thing” their partner ever ate is now The Master Chef of Gruel.
The erudite and knowledgeable sage who taught you so much about the world becomes That Obnoxious Know It All.
The conKident and assertive decision maker becomes The Control Freak Who Thinks I Can’t Do Anything For Myself.
How does this happen? It happens because “familiarity breeds contempt” which is an adage so old (and wise) that it is thought to have hirst been published in Chaucer's Tale of Melibee (c. 1386). If this saying has been around for that long, perhaps there is something to it.
The more you get to know someone the greater the psychological distance there is between that ideal version of the person you met and became attracted to (that is full of newness and wonder) and
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