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the usual culprits: estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, cortisol and during and after your hirst and subsequent orgasms — oxytocin, “the bonding hormone” (which some say even encourages monogamy, and if that’s the case it is really not doing a very good job in modern culture). Oxytocin is also secreted when mother’s breastfeed their infants (another signihicant human process involving loving and bonding}. I could go on about the biology of love because I love to show off, but for now, sufhice it to say, we are designed to fall in love, because, as a species, without the help of our built in secretions (how unromantic), we would not have made it to the point of falling in love and becoming ready to reproduce, or just hang out looking into one another’s eyes while enjoying some hot beverage, which for me, is coffee. And now, thanks to the evolution of man, the master toolmaker, we can do it by just posting bathroom selhies or texting a person we are interested in from a thousand miles away!
Our biology makes it easy to fall in love. Allow me to lose almost all of my younger readers/seminar participants by mentioning that there’s even a song which proclaims “It’s So Easy To Fall In Love.” Google, if you care to, that song title and the artist Linda Ronstadt or Buddy Holly and you will get the reference and some sense of how ancient I am. From a cultural perspective it’s important to point out that if people are singing about it (and people have been singing about love since singing began), it must have some importance to the species.
It’s so easy to fall in love that some people can do it with very little information to rely on. They do it “at hirst sight,” which just goes to
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