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Chapter One
Love Is An Emotion Loving Is A Dedication
What we call “falling in love” often happens, at hirst, by accident, without intention. We “fall” in love because we succumb to it; and we are heavily pushed over the edge by our biology. We yield to the loss of control, the obsessive interest, the preoccupation, the fantasies, the promise of never having to go through a difhicult time alone. The initial “fall” is full of contradictions. It is both more uncomfortable and more comfortable than any other feeling. It is dizzying, distracting and off putting; and then when it is returned it is grounding and supremely satisfying. I am going to call the falling in love part of developing a loving relationship the phase of “ideal love.” Sometimes I also call it “new love.” I hate that because it’s only a phase, which means it goes away or yields to another phase. It does. The second phase is “real love” and that is what the greater portion of the relationship is.
Spoiler Alert: A lot of what I teach about is why it is important to navigate back to the phase of “ideal love.”
The Biology of Love
Falling in love is the product of millions of years of human evolution. It is more about attraction than anything else, and attraction is very much led by our biology. The biological events are unmistakable and the main players in the biological contribution are, to name a few of
Staying in Love: Secret Recipes For Making Love Last 15