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Relationships that make it past the initial phase of attraction and “ideal love” are primed for failure.
I said it; and I am not taking it back. Let’s start with something that is difhicult to argue:
The period of “ideal love” prevents you from seeing your partner as they really are.
Morning hair is sexy. Farts are cute. Partners can sit together and watch things on television that they couldn’t stand for thirty seconds if they were watching alone. Opinions become talking points over long romantic dinners. Every imperfection is instantly excusable. Beginning love is full of coupons for behavior that becomes unbearable over time. When we are reminded that love is blind, this is what that saying refers to. And love isn’t only blind — it is deaf, and (with respect to the farting), has no sense of smell. We offer patience, forgiveness and tolerance of what might not be so hlattering, for the promise of security. But what we do at the beginning of love relationships is difhicult to sustain. The more comfortable we are in love relationships, the more selhish we become. We become more selhish because we got what we wanted — a partner who promised to relieve us of the burden of worry over abandonment. Add to that the fact that some people are selhish to begin with — they just hide it at the initial phase of the relationship.
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