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• Am I Disappointing My Partner? • Is My Partner Disappointing Me?
Like most intentions, these two questions require “self appraisal.” Like most intentions self appraisal requires asking important questions and giving honest answers. The answers to both of these questions will rehlect the health of the relationship and provide feedback as to how the relationship should be built up or strengthened. People who never ask these questions put the long term health of their relationship at risk. Some people never ask the question:
“Am I disappointing my partner?”
Some people are not inclined to think about anyone but themselves. They are self centered and unable to conceive that they are disappointing their partner. Perhaps they think they are too wonderful to believe they could disappoint their partner. Sometimes this attribute is called “narcissism,” and this kind of self involvement is what we will be discussing in the sections on “bad love.”
Other people do not have a sharp enough “people sense” to know they are disappointing their partners. These people are not narcissistic as much as they might be a bit “tone deaf.” They need to be taught to observe or realize when their partner is disappointed or unhappy. The person who needs to teach them that is you. If you want your partner to be more sensitive to your disappointment it is
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