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managing your disappointments together. Like everything in a relationship there is a give and take, a yin and yang, a balance between politely requesting to have your needs met; and modifying one’s own expectations about what might be a reasonable expectation for change.
You are not going to change your personality (or your partner’s personality), but you can change how the strengths and weaknesses of your personality affect your partner, and how theirs affect you.
What Are The Tasks of Managing Disappointment?
It’s one thing to acknowledge that there is disappointment in every relationship, but it makes sense to want to know what we have to do to manage it and hopefully repair it. I have concentrated on “intention,” but intention is not the whole task.
To truly fortify, nourish and transform a relationship, intention must become action.
These topics are covered in their own chapters so for now I am identifying that managing disappointment is an essential “maintenance task” in every love relationship and the “how we do it” which fortihies the relationship, are the ways we turn intention into action.
One Last Word About Intention or Trying
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