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These disappointments are born from comfort, complacency and lack of trying, which is to say a lack of intention to maintain your relationship by counteracting the forces which create disappointment.
I will make it even slightly more pessimistic by pointing out that when people stop trying, they stop listening to their partner telling them they are disappointed. We don’t pay enough attention to how our faults and hlaws affect our partners and we do not do anything to address those faults and hlaws.
It is simple and complicated all at the same time.
We are all “too” imperfect:
• Some of us are too neat, some too sloppy.
• Some of us are too interested In sports, or not interested enough.
• Some of us are too cheap and some too spendy.
• Some of us are too motivated to dominate and control (you know,
its for your own good) and some of us are too submissive and dependent.
The list is endless, but the key is not to have to change yourself entirely to suit the comfort level of your partner or expect that your partner is going to change entirely to adjust to you. Rather, if you can listen to your partner and try to adjust to their wishes and expectations, then you are doing the work of a good partnership and more importantly, if you are doing it as a partnership you are
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