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make our partners laugh. We try to make our partners feel special. And then we stop trying because we get comfortable.
Remember, as heady and intoxicating as new love is, what it is more than anything else is a “point of reference.” It is going to be the point in the timeline of our relationship that partners resent when it becomes too far off in the rear view.
“Why can’t it be like it once was?”
Regret and disappointment over not having what you once had can invade a lot of our “present moment” relationship. Disappointment over impatience, intolerance, frequency of sex, passion, how a partner has maintained their appearance, unwillingness to do things, lack of appreciation, all of which in their opposite forms, were once a source of excitement and romance, can create the dynamic of people feeling as though they are “drifting away from one another.” This is when couples begin to tell one another:
"You are not the person I fell in love with...” “I feel like I do not know you anymore...”
“I feel like we are not best friends anymore.” “We have grown apart...”
“We have become strangers...”
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