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accurate in reporting that he settles down within half an hour of being in school, then eventually he will adjust.
It would be important for you to find out the reason your son is having separation difficulties. Sometimes (not always), parents send out signals that they, too, will be upset without the child around during the day. Just about the worst thing you can do with a child who develops a phobic reaction to school is keep him home because he looks upset. He will never adjust to going to school if he thinks that making a fuss will get him out of it. Resist the urge to walk down the hall and peek into his classroom to make sure everything is all right. Schools are used to handling this problem because it is a fairly common one. Try to coordinate your efforts with the school psychologist or social worker if your school employs such a person. Oftentimes the school psychologist or social worker will set up a behavioral incentive program so that the child can earn prizes or privileges for coming into school and settling down.
Be aware of stress that may be coming from an out-
side source, or from another family problem that is contributing to your child's behavior.
NERVOUS TICS
Lately, my third-grade-aged child has begun to move his head in a funny way. The pediatrician told me that it was a tic, and that it comes from stress. Can you tell me anything more about it?
A tic is a nervous habit that is brought about by stress. Tics can be seen in the form of jerky head movements, eye blinks, or throat clearing. Third grade seems to be a very common age for
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