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I will not force a child to endure a highly frustrating experience without trying to find ways to modify the experience to make it less frustrating.
I will not get angry at my child for failing, but I will, when appropriate, let my child fail because understanding failure is a key to achieving success.
I will emphasize that getting to the end of a task with even the smallest degree of success is better than quitting in the middle.
I can hinder my child’s success if I constantly demand performance that exceeds his or her abilities, or if I push too hard too fast.
I will emphasize effort as much as achievement. Productive Versus Unproductive Time
Good results should follow good efforts, but at times they do not, because an additional component to achievement is time. Parents (and often teachers) are in the unique position of being able to help children understand that time on task is a key component to success. We live in a society that places a rush on just about everything. We are overscheduled, hurried and always “tight on time.” Achievement is rarely accomplished without dedication, and dedication takes time.
It is always important to be able to observe your children with an eye toward whether they are spending “productive” versus “unproductive” time. Productive time is time spent problem
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