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Contracts and sticker programs can really make a difference in behavior and represent a concrete way to establish a stronger leadership position. However, the goals cannot be too distant, and you have to “pay up,” when the reward is learned.
I have found that a great alternative to stars and stickers is the “good behavior coupon.” This is good for kids up to about age ten or so. The good behavior coupon is given to a child at the beginning of the day and is tied to a single behavior (let’s say taking out the trash). If the child does what the coupon represents, the coupon can be redeemed for a reward. If not, the coupon must be returned and the opportunity to earn the prize or privilege is lost for the day.
Avoid This Mistake: Flipping the Script
When using rewards to improve your child’s behavior it is important to avoid “changing the deal.” Don’t make it easier for your child to earn the reward you have proposed, because if you do you are teaching your child that he or she can cut corners or deliver less performance for the same incentive. Remember, your ultimate goal is to prepare your child for the real world, and in the real world it is hard to achieve success by doing only part of a job.
By the same token don’t withdraw or modify the structure for earning a reward if it looks like you have made it “too easy.” There is always a next time and a “new deal.”
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