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Knowing that we are responsible -- "response-able" -- is fundamental to effectiveness and
to every other habit of effectiveness we will discuss.

Application Suggestions

1. For a full day, listen to your language and to the language of the people around you.
How often do you use and hear reactive phrases such as "If only," "I can't," or "I have to"

2. Identify an experience you might encounter in the near future where, based on past
experience, you would probably behave reactively. Review the situation in the context of
your Circle of Influence. How could you respond proactively? Take several moments and
create the experience vividly in your mind, picturing yourself responding in a proactive
manner. Remind yourself of the gap between stimulus and response. Make a
commitment to yourself to exercise your freedom to choose.

3. Select a problem from your work or personal life that is frustrating to you. Determine
whether it is a direct, indirect, or no control problem. Identify the first step you can take
in your Circle of Influence to solve it and then take that step.

4. Try the 30-day test of proactivity. Be aware of the change in your Circle of Influence.

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