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to be happy. My oldest son asked me to go to these dinners so to forget about them because they were and always will be a
I did and it was one of the hardest days of my life because the part of us our story and our family.
ones who knew would hug me and I would completely lose
it, then have to run to the bathroom and get myself together. To those families who have lost someone so precious, I am
truly sorry for your loss, but please know you are not alone.
I share this story with you not for pity or sympathy but in hope You have family, friends and neighbors who are here to support
that you will not feel so alone when you think about losing you when you are ready. To our sweet angels in heaven, we love

your baby. Pregnancy and infant loss affect more people than you and we will see you one day but you are never forgotten
you can possibly realize. and your memories will live on forever.
From the moment a child is conceived that baby is part of you,
part of your family, your life and your heart forever.
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every part of your family planning and personal business.
Please stop asking “When are you going to have a baby?” Th is
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position. If you have never lost a child, please remember these

things as a courtesy to not hurt someone. Though it is not
intentional hearing the below phrases does hurt the woman
or family who has lost a baby.
• “Everything happens for a reason”
• “You can always adopt”
• “Well at least it was early in the pregnancy”
• “Don’t feel bad at least you have other children”
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or gestational age. I have found a few ways to honor my baby
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time we sit down to eat I can watch the butterflies come and School
go and that is calming to me as a way the baby is saying its
going to be OK. I also ordered a mother’s ring. It has three Greater Impact
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We do not want to forget our babies; we do not want anyone
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