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Many of my clients come to me seeking advice on how to rid themselves of debt, and I tell them that the most important thing to know is that you must let go of judgments and negative emotions about it. Only then can you create the positive emotions that will bring you the courage that will allow you to tolerate your negative feelings as you explore why you got into debt. You can learn the lessons of your debt and then move on to create wealth, deal with what you owe, and put yourself back into the black instead of the red.
The steps for getting out of debt are:
1. Simply observe your negative emotions. You might feel guilty for overspending, or angry because you made a business decision that turned out badly for you. When you think about your debt, identify the negative emotions that surface and that are connected to your dark thoughts. If you're thinking, I shouldn't have listened to my friend about that investment! or What will I do when that credit card bill comes in and I can't afford the minimum payment? identify the negative feelings those thoughts are creating and reinforcing.
2. Let go of judgment. The problem with judgment is that it creates destructive, negative emotions. Don't dismiss yourself as irresponsible or foolish. Don't cast judgments on other people: the individual you loaned money to who didn't give it back, the person who gave you bad advice, the customer who didn't pay his bill, and so on. It's not helpful to judge yourself or anyone else negatively. If you did something you shouldn't have, you'll deal with that in a moment. For now, move on to the next step....
3. Learn from your negative emotions and your experiences. Your negative feelings may have been so deeply buried that you didn't recognize them until just now. Often they're repressed because they're so painful to experience. Allow yourself to process them, and have faith that you'll move through them and even benefit from them, because they have a lot to teach you. My guess is that at the root of your imbalance between spending and income are negative feelings such as lack, anger, unworthiness, or fear.
You may have thought that these feelings could empower you in some way;