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exclude assets as mentioned but they don't have the moral guts to do so and

explain why to their better half. Thus they start lying and it is always
unnecessary. Surely your better half will understand if explained to properly why
the asset is excluded. It might be a family heirloom. No one is unreasonable

enough to make a stand on such issues. However, I saw cases where the

lawyers advise the client to make a big stand before she is cheated out of her
rightful share. I cannot agree with such advice. Marriage should never be about
rightful shares but love between two people with genuine desire to face life

together. Not even I am that cynical and would in such cases advise my client to

break the engagement off if one party seems to be focussed on material needs.

I said in my free book Your Worst Enemy that you should not have any secrets

regarding money when it comes to your wife. How can a relationship as serious
as marriage be based on a lack of truth? I quote from the book "Secondly, I

don't know about you but secrets between man and wife is very bad for any
relationship. You know what I mean! If you have financial woes your family must

know about it and I want to hear no excuses from you. You are one facing life
together as one. It is a very big deal to be honest about it.

Yes, I know many men will now say "K, I want to protect my wife from this and

cannot act like a long haired liberal by crying all the time in her ears." Indeed
Sir, I agree with the crying part. However, you will be surprised how vicious a

woman gets when her man is under threat. I am sure my female readers will
forgive me for I mean no disrespect but you only have to look in nature to see

my point. It is the lioness who kills most of the time. Not the male who only
roars and makes cubs. Well I suppose that is a reason to roar but you know

what my point is. Your wife and family will stand by you and support you.

As a man I understand your protection theory but it is cr-p in real life. If she
does not stand by you then perhaps it is time for her to go her own way for she
most certainly does not love you as a she should. The test here is would you

have expected her to tell you if the roles was reversed? The answer better be

yes and then what? You love her and support her and sort it out. Really, what
more is there to say? I am right!

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