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Wife kidnapping is also one of those things which is disappearing though it

happens in parts of Africa, Europe and Asia. In law it is kidnapping and rape and
not to be taken lightly for I am sure that many problems originated from this
custom. I know that in certain places it is tradition to do so and more of a fake

(put-on) type of action than anything else and obviously that is not what we are

referring to.

In case you into this because you saw Seven Brides for Seven Brothers don't be

surprised to be executed afterwards for the law do not take kindly to kidnapping.
I don't think we need to discuss it in more detail. As a Westerner I fail to get it

anyway. There is no need for wife kidnapping as a woman in love will follow you
everywhere and anywhere because she loves you. The improved specie is much

more loyal than men and much tougher. They have to be to put up with us and
survive some men. And another secret, looks don't count nearly as much as love

and loyalty.

The next few paragraphs are aimed at the South African marriage scene but as
said many times before the law is reasonably similar everywhere. Just make

sure on the local websites what the law is in your country. Getting married is a
serious commitment and you have to follow the regulations to the letter or you

will have legal problems later on. This is no place for shortcuts.

As a starting point all marriage officers wants to see some sort of identification

before the marriage or wedding ceremony. It is to ensure that the parties are

who they say they are and sometimes to crosscheck age. If not a resident of
South Africa you will need to show your passport.

As a foreigner you do not need special permission and many thousands marry in
places like Cape Town because it is supposed to the top holiday destination in

the world and more I suspect because of our very liberal laws allowing gays and
lesbians to be married legally. These marriages are valid in the rest of the world

though it may not have an effect on your tax payments.

The honeymoon is supposed to be a secret from the bride (yeah sure) but as
you know it is tradition only and has nothing to do with law. However, you may
need a passport and some women want that passport to be in her married name

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