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WHA T I REALL Y W ANT IS . . .

By Debbie Storms
The Good Life

ust because the train is I have come to believe this is My temperature headed to 98.6
pulling out of the station that the best way for me to live. It took as I focused on myself and not on
J es not mean you have to a while but as I was being kind to everyone else in an unhealthy way.
do
get on it. The train is a metaphor myself, I was able to be kinder to Setting boundaries, not walls. Walls
for people, places, and situations others. Simply put if you don’t have shut people out and boundaries
that do not serve me in the way I it you can't give it away. That is, I strengthen the core of my being as
deserve to be treated. Yes, that ask can't give you something I don’t I see who I am. The healing will
can be a tall order when living life have. If you ask to borrow a dollar begin when you practice being
on life's terms and taking everyone and I don’t have one I cannot give it kind to yourself and acting in kind-
else's temperature to find out how I to you. So let it begin with me. ness to others.
feel. Sound confusing? In reality, it My story has been built on a The law of nature is the way
is more than confusing; it is living belief system that no longer serves I am guided. Nature is real and
each day not practicing self-care. me. It took years and years to beautiful. The law of nature brings
Taking care of yourself is an inside build and I have gently practiced the tides in and the tides out. The
job and takes a lot of checking in rebuilding it. Once I started to sea reflects the sky and reacts to the
and asking yourself how you feel feel serenity in my life, I found I gravitational pull of the moon and
and taking your own temperature. was looking for more. This meant sun. The tides help detox the sea.
That’s a lot to think about and may I needed to do an inventory of Just like the sea we have people that
be foreign to enablers like me. No myself. Where was I accepting un- are moons and suns in our lives.
one says this happens overnight, it acceptable behavior? Was I living The moons draw on us and the
is truly a process and learning to be without boundaries? What I allow suns give to us. My job is to flow
kind to yourself. I teach and I have given others with the tide and let nature take its
permission to treat me poorly by course and gravitate to the people
not speaking my truth. In time that bring goodness and light into
the only way I reacted was with my life.
anger and not having emotional Does this mean you will live
maturity. Accepting blame from happily ever after? Let mother
others, spinning into a downward nature take its course in your sea of
spiral, and not practicing self-care. life one day at a time with self-care
There was no way that was going and kindness. Now you are on your
to continue happening. At the way.
end of the day, I had to live with Pura Vida!
my own unacceptable behavior
and the emotional cycle of anger, Let me know what you really want
blame, shame, and guilt was set in dstorms88@gmail.com
motion. Living like this was not
bringing happiness into my life,
only darkness and discomfort.

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