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Control

When children realise that they can control the outcomes of their
decisions and actions, they’re more likely to know that they have the
ability to do what it takes to bounce back.
On the other hand, if you make all the decisions, children are denied
the opportunity to learn control and you rob them of the opportunity to
learn to take responsibility for their own choices and their own actions.
A child who feels “everything always happens to me” tends to become
a victim of life, passive, pessimistic, or even depressed because they
see control as external – and outside of their influence because they
begin to think that whatever they do really doesn’t matter because they
have no control over the outcome.
But a resilient child knows that they have internal control.

They learn that their own choices and actions, help to determine their
results. They learn that what they do makes a difference, which further
develops their feelings of competence, confidence & resilience.
Young people who learn responsibility will learn to make wise choices
and feel a sense of control over their lives & they therefore become
more resilient.
To foster this sense of being able to control, here are some things to
consider:

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