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Our basic nature is love. However, our ignorance, mistrust, fear and attachment have buried it so deeply within us that it is sometimes difficult to find or
maintain. Loving others steadily, in spite of their behaviour, is not easy.

Love Is NOT Need

We often use the word love when we really mean, "need". We say, "I love you." But, if we analyse ourselves deeply, we may come to realize we really mean,
"I need you."

This is not the highest form of love. It is love mixed with need, attachment and addiction. If it were love in the purest sense and the other was happier by
leaving us or even happier with someone else, we would be happy for him or her, not full of sadness for ourselves. Loving others means wanting them to be
happy, healthy and successful in the ways that they are guided to be.

Love does not create the pain we feel when someone leaves us or rejects us. That pain is generated by our dependency upon that person for our security,
pleasure or affirmation. Needs and attachments create fear, pain and suffering.

Love creates happiness, fulfilment and the experience of our True Selves

Love Is NOT Security

Love wants to give. Need wants to take. Sometimes what we are seeking to take is very subtle.
Whenever we feel pain, fear or anger in our relationships, it is because we believe that our needs are in "danger" of not being satisfied. When this happens,
our "love" turns to hurt, disappointment, fear, resentment, loneliness, inferiority, or bitterness, and sometimes, anger, hate, rage and desire for revenge.

How can love become all these negative feelings? It cannot. The truth is that our emotion never was pure love to begin with. It was an "attraction" based to
some degree also on need.

This does not mean that we should reject ourselves because we have seldom really loved purely. As we are not yet enlightened spiritual beings, how could
we? It would be like rejecting ourselves because we are a flower bud, which has not yet blossomed. It is only natural that we cannot yet love unconditionally.
This is our stage of evolution.

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