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YOUR SELF ANALYSIS PROCESS

Emotional Programming – Your Conditioning

It’s not by accident or luck that you have ended up the person you are now. Much of it is due to
the emotional programming you experienced as you grew. Your emotional programming is
simply a set of beliefs you acquired about yourself, collecting experiences and influences,
minute by minute from your parents, peers, relatives, friends and society.
For the rest of your life, these beliefs affect the way you think and behave. Until you identify the
beliefs that are not relevant to you personally, or no longer serve your best interests, your
happiness remains at the mercy of those beliefs.

In other words, your life experiences cause you to make decisions about yourself, your abilities,
the thoughts you will have, the behaviours you will employ and the choices you will make.

· Between birth and 5 years you receive 50% of your emotional programming

· Between 5 and 8 years you receive 30% of your emotional programming

· Between 8 and 18 years you receive 15% of your emotional programming
By the time you are eighteen, you are 95% programmed! It is the 5% remaining for the rest of your
life that can be used to make worthwhile changes in your life. As an example, whilst 5% of your
mind says “I want a wonderful relationship with a partner that treats me well”, it is the 95%
already programmed that is responsible for the poor love choices you may have made in the
past. It is only once you dig deep enough like this, to understand why you have been doing what
you have been doing that you will be free to change your life and behaviour for the better. Your
unconscious mental programming is responsible for most of the pain you have experienced from
decisions and choices you have made in the past.

The Stages of Human Development

One of the worlds most recognised psychologists was Erik Erikson, whose work in the field of
human development is particularly relevant to the subject we are exploring here.

Babies are born with some basic capabilities and distinct temperaments. But they go through
dramatic changes on the way to adulthood, and while growing old. Babies are born with only
two fears: fear of falling and fear of loud Moises. Every other fear we have acquired along the
way by learning from otheras and the good news is they can be un-learned.
According to Erikson, each individual passes through eight developmental stages.

Each stage is characterized by a different psychological "crisis", which must be resolved by the
individual before the individual can move on to the next stage. If the person copes with a
particular crisis poorly, the outcome will be more struggles with that issue later in life.

The experiences that have defined life as you know it

From the thousands of hours of life you may have amassed, your defining experiences, those that
moulded you into the person you are now, are derived from:

· Your decisive EVENTS
· Your important SELECTIONS

· Your dominant PEOPLE