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Feeling Okay, Not Feeling Okay?



        Let’s Talk About It!




         I’m not crazy. I

         don’t need help. I’ll

         just pray about it.



        BY DANIELLE JONES, LPC
                hese are all statements I
                have heard from people
                when asking them if they
        Thave considered thera-
        py.  Even with mental health being
        talked about more now than it
        has in the past, people still have a
        negative connotation about going
        to a therapy session or discussing
        their feelings with friends/families.
        Mental health should be just as
        much a priority as physical health,   defines mental health as “a state of   Starting the conversation about
        especially since mental health can   well-being in which the individual   failing mental health does not have
        contribute to issues with physical   realizes his or her own abilities,   to be a therapy session or appoint-
        health (i.e. stress leading to strokes   can cope with the normal stresses   ment with a primary care physician;
        or heart attacks).  Everyone must    of life, can work productively and   it can simply be admitting you do
        start making their mental health a   fruitfully, and is able to make a    not feel well or feel like yourself.
        priority and letting go of the neg-  contribution to his or her commu-    You can admit this to yourself or
        ative connotations from the past.    nity.”  So why is it so tough to talk   share it with a safe person.  It can
        Reducing stigma, admitting you’re    about? Understanding that mental     be as simple as when someone asks,
        not okay, and utilizing social are all   health is simply a mental state, and   “how are you?” instead of reply-
        necessary components to starting     not an implication of being mental   ing with the easy answer of “fine/
        the conversation about mental        ill helps to take the pressure off   good” give them an honest answer,
                                                                                  “I’m actually really sad/tired/mad/
        health.                              the conversation.  Every aspect of   scared/etc.”  In addition recognizing
                                             life contributes to mental health    changes in your daily behaviors
        Reducing the stigma around men-      (break ups, sick family members, car   (sleeping too much/not enough,
        tal health helps with starting the   accidents, getting a new job, having   crying frequently, eating too much/
        conversation.  Everyone has mental   a baby, etc.)  People have conversa-  not enough).  Letting your feelings
        health, just like they have physical   tions about their life everyday and   out into the atmosphere will help
 Follow us at @therapyislight   health.  Mental health sadly has   do not realize they are discussing   you acknowledge how you are feel-
                                             their mental health.  Making people
        a negative connotation of being
                                                                                  ing and make it real.  Often people
 on Instagram    crazy or mentally not well, which is   comfortable discussing their mental  overlook their feelings and behav-
                                             state and how things are going in
                                                                                  iors by invalidating them or compar-
        not the truth.  Many are unaware
        of what mental health actually       their life helps to facilitate a pro-  ing their situations to other people.
        is so starting the conversation is   ductive conversation on mental       This looks like “I cannot be de-
        difficult because everyone is not    health because it truly is second    pressed because my situation is not
        on the same page with its meaning.    nature and less taboo than people   as bad as theirs or I’m not sad, I’ve
        The World Health Organization        make it seem.                        just been having a bad week.”  You

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