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after we got married and simply took me for granted. I felt
used and unappreciated.
“When I talked to Jim about my feelings, he’d laugh at
me and say we had as good a marriage as anybody else in
the community. He didn’t understand why I was so unhappy.
He would remind me that the bills were paid, that we had a
nice house and a new car, that I was free to work or not
work outside the home, and that I should be happy instead
of complaining all the time. He didn’t even try to understand
my feelings. I felt totally rejected.
“Well, anyway,” she said as she moved her tea and
leaned forward, “we came to your seminar three years ago.
We had never been to a marriage seminar before. I did not
know what to expect, and frankly I didn’t expect much. I
didn’t think anybody could change Jim. During and after the
seminar, Jim didn’t say too much. He seemed to like it. He
said that you were funny, but he didn’t talk with me about
any of the ideas in the seminar. I didn’t expect him to, and I
didn’t ask him to. As I said, I had already given up by then.
“As you know,” she said, “the seminar ended on
Saturday afternoon. Saturday night and Sunday were pretty
much as usual, but Monday afternoon, he came home from
work and gave me a rose. ‘Where did you get that?’ I
asked. ‘I bought it from a street vendor,’ he said. ‘I thought
you deserved a rose.’ I started crying. ‘Oh, Jim, that is so
sweet of you.’
“In my mind,” she said, “I knew he bought the rose from
a Moonie. I had seen the young man selling roses that