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enjoying every minute of it. After our dinner at the
restaurant, I said to him, ‘Jim, you have to tell me what’s
happening. I don’t understand.’”
She looked at me intently and said, “Dr. Chapman, you
have to understand. This man had never given me a flower
since the day we got married. He never gave me a card for
any occasion. He always said, ‘It’s a waste of money; you
look at the card and throw it away.’ We’d been out to dinner
one time in five years. He never bought the children
anything and expected me to buy only the essentials. He
had never brought a pizza home for dinner. He expected
me to have dinner ready every night. I mean, this was a
radical change in his behavior.”
I turned to Jim and asked, “What did you say to her in
the restaurant when she asked you what was going on?”
“I told her that I had listened to your lecture on love
languages at the seminar and that I realized that her love
language was gifts. I also realized that I had not given her a
gift in years, maybe not since we had been married. I
remembered that when we were dating I used to bring her
flowers and other small gifts, but after marriage I figured we
couldn’t afford that. I told her that I had decided that I was
going to try to get her a gift every day for one week and see
if it made any difference in her. I had to admit that I had
seen a pretty big difference in her attitude during the week.
“I told her that I realized that what you said was really
true and that learning the right love language was the key to
helping another person feel loved. I said I was sorry that I