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Love Language #4

ACTS OF SERVICE

Before we leave Jim and Janice, let’s reexamine Jim’s
answer to my question, “Do you feel loved by Janice?”
“Oh, I’ve always felt loved by her, Dr. Chapman. She is
the best housekeeper in the world. She is an excellent
cook. She keeps my clothes washed and ironed. She is
wonderful about doing things with the children. I know she
loves me.”
Jim’s primary love language was what I call “acts of
service.” By acts of service, I mean doing things you know
your spouse would like you to do. You seek to please her
by serving her, to express your love for her by doing things
for her.
Such actions as cooking a meal, setting a table,
washing dishes, vacuuming, cleaning a commode, getting
hairs out of the sink, removing the white spots from the
mirror, getting bugs off the windshield, taking out the
garbage, changing the baby’s diaper, painting a bedroom,
dusting the bookcase, keeping the car in operating
condition, washing or vacuuming the car, cleaning the