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“Two years,” he responded. “And we don’t agree on
anything.”
“Give me some examples,” I continued.
“Well, for one thing, Mary doesn’t like me to go hunting.
I work all week in the mill, and I like to go hunting on
Saturdays—not every Saturday but when hunting season is
in.”
Mary had been silent until this point when she
interjected. “When hunting season is out, he goes fishing,
and besides that, he doesn’t hunt just on Saturdays. He
takes off from work to go hunting.”
“Once or twice a year I take off two or three days from
work to go hunting in the mountains with some buddies. I
don’t think there is anything wrong with that.”
“What else do you disagree on?” I asked.
“Well, she wants me to go to church all the time. I don’t
mind going on Sunday morning, but Sunday night I like to
rest. It’s all right if she wants to go, but I don’t think I ought to
have to go.”
Again, Mary spoke up. “You don’t really want me to go
either,” she said. “You fuss every time I walk out the door.”
I knew that things weren’t supposed to be getting this
hot under a shady tree in front of a church. As a young,
aspiring counselor, I feared that I was getting in over my
head, but having been trained to ask questions and listen, I
continued. “What other things do you disagree on?”
This time Mary answered. “He wants me to stay home
all day and work in the house,” she said. “He gets mad if I