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I thought I was beginning to see some light, but I wasn’t
sure Mark and Mary were seeing it. I turned to Mary and
asked, “When you were dating Mark, what convinced you
that he really loved you? What made him different from
other guys you had dated?”
“It was the way he helped me with everything,” she
said. “He was so eager to help me. None of the other guys
ever expressed any interest in those things, but it seemed
natural for Mark. He even helped me wash dishes when he
had supper at our house. He was the most wonderful
person I had ever met, but after we got married that
changed. He didn’t help me at all.”
Turning to Mark I asked, “Why do you think you did all
those things for and with her before you were married?”
“It just seemed natural for me,” he said. “It’s what I
would want someone to do for me if she cared about me.”
“And why do you think you stopped helping her after
you got married?” I asked.
“Well, I guess I expected it to be like my family. Dad
worked, and Mom took care of things at the house. I never
saw my dad vacuum the floor or wash the dishes or do
anything around the house. Since Mom didn’t work outside
the house, she kept everything spotless, did all the cooking,
washing, and ironing. And I guess I just thought that was the
way it was supposed to be.”
Hoping that Mark was seeing what I was seeing, I
asked, “Mark, a moment ago what did you hear Mary say
when I asked her what really made her feel loved by you