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“Oh,” he said, “my father mowed the grass and washed
the car.”
“But he didn’t change the diapers or vacuum the floor,
right?”
“Right,” he said.
“You don’t have to do these, you understand? If you do
them, however, it will be an act of love to Mary.”

What we do for each other before marriage is no
indication of what we will do after marriage.

And to Mary I said, “You understand that you don’t have
to do these things, but if you want to express love for Mark,
here are four ways that will be meaningful to him. I want to
suggest that you try these for two months and see if they
help. At the end of two months, you may want to add
additional requests to your lists and share them with each
other. I would not add more than one request per month,
however.”
“This really makes sense,” Mary said. “I think you have
helped us,” Mark said. They took each other by the hand
and walked toward their car. I said to myself out loud, “I
think this is what church is all about. I think I am going to
enjoy being a counselor.” I have never forgotten the insight I
gained under that chinaberry tree.