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things which, if he chose to do them, would help you know
that he loved you.” (I’m big on lists; they force us to think
concretely.)
After five to six minutes, they handed me their lists.
Mark’s list read:

Make up the beds every day.

Have the baby’s face washed when I get home.

Put her shoes in the closet before I get home.
Try to have supper at least started before I get home
so that we could eat within 30–45 minutes after I get
home.

I read the list out loud and said to Mark, “I’m
understanding you to say that if Mary chooses to do these
four things, you will view them as acts of love toward you.”
“That’s right,” he said, “if she did those four things, it
would go a long way in changing my attitude toward her.”
Then I read Mary’s list:

I wish he would wash the car every week instead of
expecting me to do it.