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I wish he would change the baby’s diaper after he
gets home in the afternoon, especially if I am working
on supper.
I wish he would vacuum the house for me once a
week.
I wish he would mow the grass every week in the
summer and not let it get so tall that I am ashamed of
our yard.

I said, “Mary, I am understanding you to say that if Mark
chooses to do those four things, you would take his actions
as genuine expressions of love toward you.”
“That’s right,” she said. “It would be wonderful if he
would do those things for me.”
“Does this list seem reasonable to you, Mark? Is it
feasible for you to do these things?”
“Yes,” he said.
“Mary, do the things on Mark’s list seem reasonable
and feasible to you? Could you do them if you chose to?”
“Yes,” she said, “I can do those things. In the past, I
have felt overwhelmed because no matter what I did, it was
never enough.”
“Mark,” I said, “you understand that what I am
suggesting is a change from the model of marriage that
your mother and father had.”