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A PERSONAL WORD

In chapter 2, I warned the reader that “understanding the
five love languages and learning to speak the primary love
language of your spouse may radically affect his or her
behavior.” Now I ask, “What do you think?” Having read
these pages, walked in and out of the lives of several
couples, visited small villages and large cities, sat with me
in the counseling office, and talked with people in
restaurants, what do you think? Could these concepts
radically alter the emotional climate of your marriage? What
would happen if you discovered the primary love language
of your spouse and chose to speak it consistently?
Neither you nor I can answer that question until you
have tried it. I know that many couples who have heard this
concept at my marriage seminars say that choosing to love
and expressing it in the primary love language of their
spouse has made a drastic difference in their marriage.
When the emotional need for love is met, it creates a
climate where the couple can deal with the rest of life in a
much more productive manner.
We each come to marriage with a different personality
and history. We bring emotional baggage into our marriage