Page 97 - The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

In addition to the basic love language of quality time, or
giving your spouse your undivided attention, is another
dialect called quality activities. At a recent marriage
seminar, I asked couples to complete the following
sentence: “I feel most loved by my husband/ wife when
_______.” Here is the response of a twenty-nine-year-old
husband who has been married for eight years: “I feel most
loved by my wife when we do things together, things I like to
do and things she likes to do. We talk more. It sorta feels
like we are dating again.” That is a typical response of
individuals whose primary love language is quality time.
The emphasis is on being together, doing things together,
giving each other undivided attention.
Quality activities may include anything in which one or
both of you have an interest. The emphasis is not on what
you are doing but on why you are doing it. The purpose is to
experience something together, to walk away from it feeling
“He cares about me. He was willing to do something with
me that I enjoy, and he did it with a positive attitude.” That is
love, and for some people it is love’s loudest voice.

Tracie grew up with the symphony. Throughout her
childhood, the house was filled with classical music. At
least once a year, she accompanied her parents to the
symphony. Larry, on the other hand, grew up on country and
western music. He never actually attended a concert, but