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understand, the more we feel a person’s circumstance, the more we can give, help, and love.
A friend of mine sadly passed away suddenly, and far too soon. In his youth, he had suffered a spinal injury that left one arm paralyzed. His family and friends followed his lead and rarely focused upon, or spoke about, his impediment. It was just a part of who he was and the man he had become.
Sometimes I would watch how he had mastered the art of completing life’s necessary tasks, effortlessly preparing a drink or holding his daughter. We became good friends over the years; and at one time, I felt the need to experience his handicap in a more meaningful way. Unbeknown to him, I wore a makeshift sling around my arm day and night for a few days. I took a shower with my arm immobilized, I clumsily cleaned and cooked with one arm and tried to experience his dilemma personally. It was my first experience in actively attempting to convert sympathy to empathy.
Eventually, I told my friend about my inept experiences trying to “be” him, if only temporarily. He was deeply touched that I would go as far as to attempt to experience his plight. I viewed my friend in a different light from that point forward. It wasn’t through sympathy, but through empathy that I learned more about his courage and determination and gained a deeper respect for him. In addition, I realized I had attained a renewed, sincere admiration for his accomplishments.
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