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Are you concerned about how frequently you argue?

Do you think it might destroy your relationship?

Or have you look for ways to solve this critical problem? If yes, you need

to give this chapter your full attention.

A normal relationship story…

Ayo and Segun dated for five years before getting married. Before

marriage, they lived in separate apartments and gave each other space

when they needed it.

Although they are both independent, Ayo and Segun truly enjoy each

other’s company. They share similar interests and dreams of the future.

As a married couple they are just as in love, but they have both noticed

lately that they’ve been arguing more than usual. Ayo wonders where

these conflicts are coming from, and what it means for their marriage.

If, like Ayo and Segun, you’re alarmed by the presence of conflict in your

relationship, don’t worry—arguing is normal.

Arguments can simply be a sign that you’ve become more codependent

(the healthy kind). When you combine your routine, habits, and finances

with someone else’s, it’s natural for your personal differences to become

more pronounced.

The fact is, as a people in relationship, you are two separate people

working as a team. Sometimes being part of a team is hard work, but you

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