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for a a a a a a a chance to to pay tribute to to someone who was and always will be loved Allow a a a a a Search for Meaning
You may find yourself asking “Why “Why “Why did he die?” “Why “Why “Why this way?” or or or “Why “Why “Why now?” This search for meaning is is is another normal part of the the the healing healing process Some Some questions have answers Some Some do not Actually the the the the healing healing occurs in in in in the the the opportunity to pose these questions not necessarily in in in in answering the Find a a a a a a supportive friend who will listen responsively as you search for meaning Treasure Your Memories
Memories
Memories
Memories
are one one of the best legacies that exist after someone loved dies Treasure them them Share them them with your your family and friends Recognize that your your memories may make you you laugh or or cry In either case they are a a a a a a a a a a a a lasting part of the the the relationship that you had with a a a a a a a a very special person Move Toward Your Grief and Heal
The capacity to to love love requires the necessity to to grieve when someone you you you love love dies You can’t heal unless you you you you openly express your your grief grief Denying your your grief grief will only make it become more confusing and and overwhelming Embrace your grief and and heal Reconciling your grief grief will not not happen quickly Remember grief grief is a a a a a a process not not an an an event Be patient and tolerant with yourself Never forget that that the death of someone loved changes your life forever It’s not that that that you you you you won’t be be happy again it’s simply that that you you you will be be be exactly the the same as you you you were before the death Accepting a a Less
For each of us us – – rich or or or or poor young or or or or old – – there are times in our lives when we must face and and and deal with personal losses and and and the the the pain and and and sorrow they cause Examples that come easily to mind are are the the the death of a a a a a a a a a a a parent spouse child or or other other close family member or or friend Many other other events and transitions also bring with them sadness and a a a a a a a need to to grieve such as:
• Being told you have a a a a a serious possibly
terminal illness
• Having to give up interests and activities
that have been a a a a a a a a a major part of your life • Seeing serious decline in in in mental or or physical health of someone you love • Retiring from a a a a a a a a a work career or or voluntary activity that has helped shape who you you are and and what you stand for • Losing a a a a a a a a significant part of your independence and mobility even giving up driving can can be a a a a a significant loss for many people
• • Moving out of your home
• • Losses such as these are simply part part of of living Like their counterparts among the the the the joyful occasions in in our lifetime – the the the birth of of a a a a a a a a child child or grandchild a a a a a a a a celebration of of marriage an an an enduring friendship – they are are part of what it means to share in in the the the human experience And the the the emotions they create in in us are part of living as well Talking to Children and Teens
When a a loved one dies it it can be difficult to to know how to to help children cope with the loss particularly as you you work through your own grief By being open and and honest encouraging communication and and and sharing your your your own feelings you you you you and and and your your your children cope with painful times and and begin your your your healing journey together Children and Grief A child’s ability to to understand death varies according to to his or or her age Infants and toddlers feel a a a a a loss through the the absence of a a a a a a a a loved one interruption in in in their regular routine and and through the the the the the grief and and stress they sense in in in their parents or other family members Spend extra tie holding and and cuddling the the child and and try to keep them on a a a a a a regular schedule as as much as as possible Younger children might have trouble understanding the permanence of death or differentiating between fantasy and and reality Page 44 - BURQUITLAM FUNERAL HOME BURQUITLAM FUNERAL HOME - Page