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of all the engines, she is the only one who agrees those children received a second marshmallow.
to help the dolls and toys over the mountain. The researchers then followed those children for
Though it is unclear whether such a small engine the next several decades.
can succeed, the engine repeats to herself, “I think
I can. I think I can.” And eventually makes it to the What the researchers found astounded them.
other side of the mountain. Those children who had managed to control
themselves in order to get the second marshmal-
It is just this persistence or perseverance that we low had more successful marriages, careers, and
need to teach our children. When struggling, we ůŝǀĞƐ ŝŶ ŐĞŶĞƌĂů͘ dŚĞ ĂďŝůŝƚLJ ƚŽ ĐŽŶƚƌŽů ƚŚĞŵƐĞůǀĞƐ
need to push ourselves in order to reach our goal. ĂŶĚ ĚĞůĂLJ ŐƌĂƟĮĐĂƟŽŶ ĞŶĚĞĚ ƵƉ ĂůůŽǁŝŶŐ ƚŚĞŵ ƚŽ
>ŝŬĞ Ăůů ŶŽŶͲĐŽŐŶŝƟǀĞ ƐŬŝůůƐ͕ ƉĞƌƐŝƐƚĞŶĐĞ ĐĂŶŶŽƚ ďĞ set goals and achieve them even if it meant wait-
taught through a worksheet. As parents, we can ŝŶŐ Ă ďŝƚ ĂůŽŶŐ ƚŚĞ ǁĂLJ͘ ,ĞůƉŝŶŐ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ƐĞƚ ŐŽĂůƐ
ďĞ ƌŽůĞ ŵŽĚĞůƐ ĨŽƌ ŽƵƌ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ĂŶĚ ƚĞĂĐŚ ƚŚĞŵ and then working with them to achieve them is an
ƚŚĂƚ ǁŚĞŶ ƚŚŝŶŐƐ ĂƌĞ ƚŽƵŐŚ͕ ƚŚĞLJ ƐƟůů ŶĞĞĚ ƚŽ ŬĞĞƉ excellent way to develop self-control.
ƚƌLJŝŶŐ͘ ^ĞƫŶŐ ŽƵƌ ŽǁŶ ŐŽĂůƐ ;ǁŚĞƚŚĞƌ ƚŚĞLJ ĂƌĞ
ĮƚŶĞƐƐ͕ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶĂů͕ Žƌ ƉĞƌƐŽŶĂů ŐŽĂůƐͿ ĂŶĚ ƚŚĞŶ Curiosity. ƵƌŝŽƐŝƚLJ ŝƐ ĂďŽƵƚ ĂƐŬŝŶŐ ƋƵĞƐƟŽŶƐ ĂŶĚ
sharing our triumphs and failures with our chil- ǁĂŶƟŶŐ ƚŽ ŬŶŽǁ ŚŽǁ ƚŚĞ ǁŽƌůĚ ǁŽƌŬƐ͘ dŚĞ ƚƌƵƚŚ
dren will teach them that it is okay to fail and then is that you cannot “teach” curiosity. You can, how-
keep on working towards a goal. Parents and edu- ĞǀĞƌ͕ ŵŽĚĞů ĐƵƌŝŽƐŝƚLJ ǁŚĞŶ LJŽƵƌ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ĂƌĞ ůŝƩůĞ
cators need to model persistence and encourage ʹ ĂƐŬŝŶŐ LJŽƵƌ ŽǁŶ ƋƵĞƐƟŽŶƐ ĂŶĚ ǁŽƌŬŝŶŐ ǁŝƚŚ Śŝŵ
ƐĞĐŽŶĚ͕ ƚŚŝƌĚ͕ ĂŶĚ ƚǁĞŶƟĞƚŚ ƚƌŝĞƐ͘ ƚŽ ůŽŽŬ ƚŚĞŵ ƵƉ͘ zŽƵ ĐĂŶ ĂůƐŽ ĂŶƐǁĞƌ ŚŝƐ ƋƵĞƐ-
ƟŽŶƐ͕ ƌĞŐĂƌĚůĞƐƐ ŽĨ ŚŽǁ ƐŝůůLJ Žƌ ĨƌĞƋƵĞŶƚ ƚŚĞLJ ĂƌĞ͘
Grit. Grit goes hand in hand with persistence. dŚĞƐĞ ƋƵĞƐƟŽŶƐ ǁŝůů ŐĞƚ ůŽŶŐĞƌ ĂŶĚ ŵŽƌĞ ŝŵƉŽƌ-
Children who fail and then pull themselves up ƚĂŶƚ ĂŶĚ ĂƐ ƟŵĞ ŐŽĞƐ ŽŶ ŚĞ ǁŝůů ĚĞǀĞůŽƉ ƐŬŝůůƐ ƚŽ
ĂŶĚ ƐƚĂƌƚ ĂŐĂŝŶ ĂƌĞ ĞdžŚŝďŝƟŶŐ Őƌŝƚ͘ dŚĞLJ ŬŶŽǁ ƚŚĂƚ answer them himself.
though it is painful and their knees are scraped,
they can try again. Without grit, there is no persis- ^ĞůĨͲĐŽŶĮĚĞŶĐĞ͘ ^ĞůĨͲĐŽŶĮĚĞŶĐĞ ŝƐ ĂďŽƵƚ ďĞůŝĞǀ-
ƚĞŶĐĞ ʹ ĂŶĚ ĞǀĞƌLJ ĨĂŝůƵƌĞ ŝƐ ĮŶĂů͘ ing yourself. In order to take risks, fail, and con-
ƟŶƵĞ ĂŐĂŝŶ͕ LJŽƵ ŶĞĞĚ ƚŽ ďĞ ĐŽŶĮĚĞŶƚ ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵ ĂƌĞ
Self control. ĨĂŵŽƵƐ ƐƚƵĚLJ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ ϭϵϲϬƐ͕ ŽŌĞŶ ƐƚƌŽŶŐ ĂŶĚ ĐĂƉĂďůĞ͘ WĂƌƚ ŽĨ ƐĞůĨͲĐŽŶĮĚĞŶĐĞ ĐŽŵĞƐ
ĚƵďďĞĚ ƚŚĞ ͞ŵĂƌƐŚŵĂůůŽǁ ƐƚƵĚLJ͟ ƚĞƐƚĞĚ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ from success – and part of it comes from overcom-
on their self-control. The very young children ing failure. As parents and educators, we have to
were handed a marshmallow and told that they let children fail when they deserve to fail in order
ĐŽƵůĚ ŐĞƚ Ă ƐĞĐŽŶĚ ŽŶĞ ŝĨ ƚŚĞLJ ǁĂŝƚĞĚ ƵŶƟů ƚŚĞ ƌĞ- to help them learn to overcome that failure.
ƐĞĂƌĐŚĞƌ ĐĂŵĞ ďĂĐŬ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ ƌŽŽŵ ŝŶ ŽƌĚĞƌ ƚŽ ĞĂƚ ƚŚĞ
ĮƌƐƚ͘ ^ŽŵĞ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ĂƚĞ ƚŚĞ ĮƌƐƚ ƌŝŐŚƚ ĂǁĂLJ ĂŶĚ ĚŝĚ Ɛ ƉĂƌĞŶƚƐ͕ ĞĚƵĐĂƚŽƌƐ͕ ĂŶĚ ŵĞŵďĞƌƐ ŽĨ Ă ĐŽŵŵƵ-
ŶŽƚ ƌĞĐĞŝǀĞ Ă ƐĞĐŽŶĚ͕ ďƵƚ ŽƚŚĞƌƐ ƐĂŶŐ Žƌ ƚĂůŬĞĚ ƚŽ ŶŝƚLJ͕ ǁĞ ĐĂŶ Ăůů ƚĂŬĞ ƐƚĞƉƐ ƚŽ ŐĂŝŶ Ă ďŝƚ ŽĨ ŚƵŵŝůŝ-
ƚŚĞŵƐĞůǀĞƐ ŝŶ ŽƌĚĞƌ ƚŽ ĂǀŽŝĚ ĞĂƟŶŐ ƚŚĞ ŵĂƌƐŚŵĂů- ƚLJ͕ ůĞĂƌŶ ƉĞƌƐĞǀĞƌĂŶĐĞ ĂŶĚ ƐĞůĨͲĐŽŶƚƌŽů͕ ĂŶĚ ďƵŝůĚ
low. Eventually, when the researcher returned, character in the process.

Ŷ ĂĐĐůĂŝŵĞĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƚŽƌ ĂŶĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶ ĐŽŶƐƵůƚĂŶƚ͕ DƌƐ͘ ZŝŅĂ ^ĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚ
ŚĂƐ ƐĞƌǀĞĚ ƚŚĞ :ĞǁŝƐŚ ĐŽŵŵƵŶŝƚLJ ĨŽƌ ĐůŽƐĞ ƚŽ ƚŚŝƌƚLJ LJĞĂƌƐ͘ ^ŚĞ ĨŽƵŶĚĞĚ
ĂŶĚ ĚŝƌĞĐƚƐ ƚŚĞ ǁŝĚĞůLJ ĂĐĐůĂŝŵĞĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶĂů ƉƌŽŐƌĂŵ͕ ^K^͕ ƐĞƌǀŝĐŝŶŐ Ăůů
ŐƌĂĚĞ ůĞǀĞůƐ ŝŶ ƐĞĐƵůĂƌ ĂƐ ǁĞůů ĂƐ ,ĞďƌĞǁ ƐƚƵĚŝĞƐ͘ ŬƌŝĂŚ ĂŶĚ ƌĞĂĚŝŶŐ ƐƉĞ-
ĐŝĂůŝƐƚ͕ ƐŚĞ ŚĂƐ ŐŝǀĞŶ ĚLJŶĂŵŝĐ ǁŽƌŬƐŚŽƉƐ ĂŶĚ ŚĂƐ ƐĞƚ ƵƉ ƌĞĂĚŝŶŐ ůĂďƐ ŝŶ
ŵĂŶLJ ƐĐŚŽŽůƐ͘ /Ŷ ĂĚĚŝƟŽŶ͕ ƐŚĞ ŽīĞƌƐ ĞǀĂůƵĂƟŽŶƐ '͘ ͘ ͘ ƉƌĞƉĂƌĂƟŽŶ͕͕ ƐŽ-
ĐŝĂů ƐŬŝůůƐ ƚƌĂŝŶŝŶŐ ĂŶĚ ƐŚŝĚĚƵĐŚ ĐŽĂĐŚŝŶŐ͕ ĨŽĐƵƐŝŶŐ ŽŶ ďƵŝůĚŝŶŐ ƐĞůĨͲĞƐƚĞĞŵ
ĂŶĚ ƐĞůĨͲĂǁĂƌĞŶĞƐƐ͘ ^ŚĞ ĐĂŶ ďĞ ƌĞĂĐŚĞĚ Ăƚ ϳϭϴͲϯϴϮͲϱϰϯϳ Žƌ Ăƚ ƌŝŅĂƐĐŚŽŶ-
ĨĞůĚΛŐŵĂŝů͘ĐŽŵ ͘ zŽƵ ĐĂŶ ǀŝĞǁ ƚŚĞ ǁĞď Ăƚ ƌŝŅĂƐĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚƐŽƐ͘ĐŽŵ͘

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