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DEAR MAN Asking for What You Need
The DEAR MAN skill is used to:
 Ask for what you need or want
 Say “no” to other people
 Set boundaries
 Express your feelings to other people
The DEAR MAN skill is what you do to be assertive with other people. Things to remember when you use the DEAR MAN skill:
 Other people cannot read your mind. You have to tell them what you need them to know.
 You don’t always get what you want when you use the DEAR MAN skill. This doesn’t mean you didn’t use the skill effectively
 Identify your goals before you use a DEAR MAN
 Keep it brief, clear, direct, and to the point
What makes it hard for you to ask for what you need and want?
How are you good at asking for what you need and want?
How could you improve on asking for what you need and want?
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