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DEAR MAN Setting Boundaries
You show someone how to treat you every time you talk with them. Setting boundaries is a way to teach other people how to respect you.
Here are some examples:
Interpersonal Effectiveness
If I laugh when Mary makes a joke about how cold it is outside, Mary will know that it is ok for her joke about the weather with me.
If I ignore my friend Anita when she is trying to make me mad, I am telling her that it is not ok to act this way around me.
When my friend George yells at me when he’s angry, and I calmly ask him to lower his voice, he will know that I do not want him to yell at me.
If I say yes when my roommate Steve asks me get him a drink from the fridge, I’m telling Steve that I am ok with getting him things.
If I lend my shoes to my roommate Diane, she will know that it is ok to borrow things from me.
Other people probably don’t know what your boundaries are until you tell them or show them how you would like to be treated.
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