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Interpersonal Effectiveness FAST
FAST (F)—skills to enhance self- respect. be Fair—pay attention to equality & balance
Accept responsibility Be kind when others make mistakes
Don’t blame others for my feelings
Take turns deciding what to do
Apologies not needed—don’t say sorry for things that are not your fault
DON’T apologize for:
 Being alive
 Being you
 Having an opinion or feeling
 Having needs or wants
 Other people
DO apologize for:
 Doing something wrong (when at fault)
 Hurting someone else’s feelings
Remember: When I apologize, I am committing to NOT doing the same mistake again. What happened to the boy who cried wolf???
Stick to your values—pay attention to things that are important to you
and act in favor of these
What happens when I act in a way that goes against what’s important to me?
 Lose self- respect, feel bad, guilty, experience shame
Truth & accountability—be honest with self & others
Value: FAMILY
Action: Have a family game night once a week
Value: EDUCATION
Action: Finish homework every night & study
Value: FRIENDSHIP
Action: Call your friend on her birthday
Do not act helpless when I am not. Examples? Admit to mistakes
Say “I don’t know” instead of Don’t cheat on homework lying
Don’t exaggerate
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