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Emotion Regulation ATTENDING TO RELATIONSHIPS
Attention to Relationships (A2R)—focus on others to feel connected & regulated
Having relationships is sort of like growing a garden. Plants tend to grow & bloom if they’re noticed & cared for. Similarly, if I take time for relationships
then they are more likely to be effective, healthy, & productive.
Talk to & spend time with others regularly to:
feel more comfortable around others
strengthen the bond
share experiences & create memories
Talk about problems right away—don’t let them build up!
anger & resentment hurts relationships
emotions grow & build up
disagreements are more manageable when they are small
Use skills to avoid problems.
set limits & respect the limits set by others
stand up for yourself if someone disrespects or crosses limits
ask questions to clarify
be gentle & kind
Balance sharing with listening—Give & Take
share information AND ask questions
actively listen—don’t forget about non-verbals
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