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Interpersonal Effectiveness Cheerleading Statements
*The following statements may be helpful when challenging interpersonal myths (from the previous page).
It’s NOT about the end- game.
 Interpersonal effectiveness skills increase the odds that I may get what I want or need...
 ...and there is no guarantee.
 I can only control myself and my part of the relationship. I may be extremely skillful
and respectful when asking for something, not get it, and still be successful!
Attend to the relationship with yourself.
 The longest and closest relationship I will ever have in life is the relationship that I have with myself, so it is important to pay attention to it.
It’s okay to have wants and needs.
 Everyone has wants and needs and this is a normal part of life.
 I can ask for things and still be a good person.
I have the right to say NO.
 Saying no can be hard because I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings...
 However, there will be times when I need to say no in order to take care of me.
Be YOU tiful.
 It’s okay to have interests, likes, opinions, and values even if they are different from those that my friends have.
 Be true to you.
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