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And perhaps not coincidentally, he also found himself doubting therapy
                —its  promises,  its  premises—for  the  first  time.  He  had  never  before
                questioned  that  therapy  was,  at  worst,  a  benign  treatment:  when  he  was

                younger,  he  had  even  considered  it  a  form  of  luxury,  this  right  to  speak
                about his life, essentially uninterrupted, for fifty minutes proof that he had
                somehow become someone whose life deserved such lengthy consideration,
                such  an  indulgent  listener.  But  now,  he  was  conscious  of  his  own
                impatience  with  what  he  had  begun  to  see  as  the  sinister  pedantry  of
                therapy, its suggestion that life was somehow reparable, that there existed a
                societal norm and that the patient was being guided toward conforming to

                it.
                   “You seem to be holding back, Willem,” said Idriss—his shrink now for
                years—and he was quiet. Therapy, therapists, promised a rigorous lack of
                judgment (but wasn’t that an impossibility, to talk to a person and not be
                judged?), and yet behind every question was a nudge, one that pushed you
                gently but inexorably toward a recognition of some flaw, toward solving a

                problem you hadn’t known existed. Over the years, he’d had friends who
                had  been  convinced  that  their  childhoods  were  happy,  that  their  parents
                were basically loving, until therapy had awakened them to the fact that they
                had not been, that they were not. He didn’t want that to happen to him; he
                didn’t want to be told that his contentment wasn’t contentment after all but
                delusion.
                   “And how do you feel about the fact that Jude doesn’t ever want to have

                sex?” Idriss had asked.
                   “I don’t know,” he’d said. But he did know, and he said it: “I wish he
                wanted to, for his sake. I feel sad that he’s missing one of life’s greatest
                experiences.  But  I  think  he’s  earned  the  right  not  to.”  Across  from  him,
                Idriss  was  silent.  The  truth  was,  he  didn’t  want  Idriss  to  try  to  diagnose
                what  was  wrong  with  his  relationship.  He  didn’t  want  to  be  told  how  to

                repair  it.  He  didn’t  want  to  try  to  make  Jude,  or  himself,  do  something
                neither of them wanted to because they were supposed to. Their relationship
                was, he felt, singular but workable: he didn’t want to be taught otherwise.
                He sometimes wondered if it was simple lack of creativity—his and Jude’s
                —that had made them both think that their relationship had to include sex at
                all.  But  it  had  seemed,  then,  the  only  way  to  express  a  deeper  level  of
                feeling. The word “friend” was so vague, so undescriptive and unsatisfying

                —how could he use the same term to describe what Jude was to him that he
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