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NARM Affect Core Principle: Shame, Guilt & Self-Hatred
§Internalizing environmental failure
§Children blame themselves for environmental (attachment) failures
§“I deserve this” or “it’s my fault" becomes the default position for children, which often persists into adulthood
• e.g., The power of the pivotal scene from Good Will Hunting when the therapist challenged Will’s unconscious self-blame: “It’s not your fault”
§Self-blame and turning the anger against themselves leads to self-hatred
§Which in turn fuels all sorts of psychological and physiological symptoms
Image by Miramax Films
NARM Model for Working with Affect Laurence Heller, PhD & Brad J Kammer, LMFT, LPCC 36