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Emotional Stability

What do you look for in a play partner? We’re not talking measurements or particular
kinks here (although both are pretty enticing), but rather the personality of your ideal
rope bunny. As discussed in previous chapters, even for experienced practitioners, bondage
can bring up a lot of intense feelings and emotions—for the rigger as well as the person
who’s bound—and you want to be able to process these feelings with a partner.

If you’re an experienced and well-respected rigger, you’ll have rope bunnies lining up
at your door, in which case it’s up to them to prove to you that they’ll be fantastic play
partners. However, if you’re only just getting into bondage, it can be a little more difficult
to find someone suitable, especially if you don’t know what you should be looking for.

First, think of all the things that you look for in a friend. You’ll want someone you like to
spend time with. Do you like your friends to have a sense of humor, and do you like to feel
comfortable and at ease in their presence? Most likely it follows that these are the traits
you should look for in a play partner. Look for someone trustworthy and fun and someone
willing to talk about his or her bondage history, sexual and mental health, and what he or
she really wants out of your playtime. Look for someone who’s open and engaging and
without drama. Nobody likes drama.

You should also look for a partner who’s emotionally stable and lucid. This isn’t to say
that you can’t play with others who have experienced trauma or difficulty in their lives or
those who have emotional sore spots; we have all been through the mill of life and we
have the scars and the tears to prove it. However, if your potential rope bunny has obvious
issues that he or she refuses to address or seems to be using bondage as a Band-Aid for

No matter what your sexuality, gender, or sexual preferences, there will
be many likeminded people in the wider bondage community. „

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