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Responding in the

Moment Answers

5. Connecting is more than being kind or a sympathetic ‘Poor you!’;

it is connecting with the other person’s experience and helping them
to feel we understand how things are for them. It helps them to feel

the other person ‘gets what that must have been like for them’.

6. It is b) which provides a good example of connection. This is because it is

the only one in which the person shows that they understand how it must
have been for the child when someone cheated in the game. In a), the

adult slipped into lecturing; in c) the person responded with criticism,
albeit masked with a kind tone.

7. Whilst showing unconditional support, kindness and connection, we must
hold high expectations and give the strong message that it is imperative

that the child builds the skills to do well by ALWAYS following-up.

It is important that all children and adults know that a child will be held to
account (in a kind way) through insistent, persistent and consistent follow-

up; this will continue until the child has the skills to manage independently

and may mean extra time to practise skills – but always with a spirit of
kindness and support.