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CHAPTER	FIFTEEN

    BUILDING	REAL	CONFIDENCE

A big	 mistake	 people	 make	 is	 thinking	 that	 confidence	 is	 a	 matter	 of
       personality.	 Confidence	 just	 means	 that	 you	 believe	 in	 yourself,	 your	 ideas,
and	 your	 capabilities.	 Anyone	 can	 learn	 how	 to	 become	 more	 confident.	 It’s	 not	 a
personality	trait.	It’s	a	skill.

    You	 may	 have	 an	 extroverted	 personality	 and	 talk	 a	 lot,	 but	 that	 doesn’t	 mean
you	are	confident.	The	most	vocal	person	in	the	room	might	be	really	insecure	and
only	says	what	he	thinks	will	make	him	look	good.	Look	no	further	than	me.	For	a
long	 time,	 I	 was	 loud	 and	 bossy,	 but	 I	 felt	 insecure	 in	 myself,	 my	 ideas,	 and	 my
abilities.

    The	quietest	people	you	know	might	actually	be	the	most	confident.	Your	best
friend	who’s	an	introvert	might	believe	in	her	ideas	with	great	confidence	(and	get
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