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How To Survive Baby Loss

INTRODUCTION

May that same peace that surpasses all understanding guard
your heart and mind in Messiah Jesus. — Philippians 4:7

his can’t be happening! How will I get through this
“Tmoment, this hour, or this day?” My mind went to im-
possible questions with feeble answers as we stumbled to find
our way out of this black tunnel. The light seems too dim to
penetrate this darkness.

My husband and I had suffered a miscarriage, then anoth-
er one, and now, the unthinkable happened. After carrying our
precious son to full term, we had lost him to stillbirth. During
the first year afterward, I had countless moments of wonder-
ing how on earth I would be able to do it. How would I tell
our friends? How could I face my coworkers? How were we
going to help our living child process the loss of her brother?
How would I pick up my broken dreams? I was flooded with
emotions and questions. I did not know that I could be more
devastated than I was after the first miscarriage, and then I had
the second, and now this. I was completely lost.

As a professional counselor, my natural inclination early on
was to use my story to help others. I found myself wanting to
show the world that I was okay. But was I okay? I had a sense
that I was not grieving properly. My tears, fears, and my faith
were on display. I was used to helping others in the trenches,
but here I was now in such a vulnerable place.

The first year after the stillbirth was full of extreme ups and
downs, and I sometimes did not know if I would pull through

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