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Child begins to show internalized values
and can reach out to others.
Child is motivated by avoiding
punishment

Child is motivated by self-interest (I will
get something if I do this)

Child copies adult behavior (positive or
negative)

Child's secure attachment organization
to main caregiver(s) predicts higher
level of empathy for others

Frequent breakdowns in managing self-
control

The younger the child in this age band,
the more likely it will be that the child
cannot consistently follow directions or
limits

Child can demonstrate some pro-social
behaviors such as providing comfort,
sympathy, helping, sharing ,
cooperating, protection, defense

Child, if highly aroused (distressed),
cannot follow parent expectations

Child cannot bring behavior under
control independently

Child plays out "discipline scenes" with
dolls or play objects (stuffies).