Page 333 - The Truth Landscape Format 2020 with next section introductions-compressed

for the things that happen to them and for everyone they meet. The power of attraction dictates that the more you express appreciation, the more things
will appear in your life to be thankful for.
• The expression of genuine approval, when you feel it, is one of the most effective ways of enhancing the self-esteem of others. Whilst it is true that
the only approval you really need is your own, it is human nature to feel uplifted when we receive unsolicited praise and approval from others. When
you give approval, you receive it in return, as with all the other healthy personality traits we have detailed here.
• Whenever you sincerely admire someone for something they have accomplished, express it. Admiration is one of those feelings that, because of
conditioning, we often find difficulty expressing. Our sub conscious minds know this, and when someone expresses genuine admiration for our
accomplishments, we not only feel proud of ourselves, but our respect for the person expressing it soars. It is as if we know that a degree of courage is
required to express it sincerely. That only makes us appreciate the gesture and the person that much more.
• You pay someone the greatest mark of respect when you demonstrate that you are paying attention to them. The amount of attention you pay them is
a neon indicator to them of how important they are to you. When you pay attention to someone, they feel valued and important and the opposite is of
course true. A major cause of negativity in relationships of all types, is the feeling that we are either being ignored or not being granted the courtesy of
the attention we deserve. Your degree of sensitivity to the attentive needs of others will significantly improve or impair your relationships and the way
your personality is perceived.

• The best way to show that you are paying attention is by active listening. This cannot be cheated, you will get found out. Listening attentively and
appreciatively builds trust and self-esteem faster than any other factor.

• Applying some, many or all of the above at some time in your relationships with others will significantly improve each of your relationships and
naturally improve the health of your personality. Having paid the correct amount of attention, displayed acceptance and appreciation of the person,
shown approval where it feels right, the final relationship and personality builder is to express understanding. You cannot do this fully and sincerely
without attentive listening. Everyone has a right to an opinion or view that may differ from yours, if you cannot show approval or admiration, at least
show acceptance and understanding of that view and their right to it. In doing so, you gain their respect, maintain their self-esteem and take pro-active
steps towards building an ongoing healthy relationship.

A final word of caution. Only express appreciation, approval or admiration when you genuinely feel it. Insincerity in your attempts to raise the self-esteem of
others will be detected and foster mistrust. The maxim is, if you can’t say something positive or nice, don’t say anything at all until you can.

The more of these principles you can apply yourself to embracing positively, the more likely it will be that your personality will be a healthy one, attractive to
others and instrumental in forging healthy relationships with others.

Page333