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Ellen sat looking bewildered and continued trying to hide her face with her book. I could see tears
still pouring from her eyes, which she continually mopped with a tissue. How I wanted to say
something, or at least to get out of my chair and attempt to comfort the poor lady, but sadly I was
trapped in my chair with tubes.

Suddenly, Brenda, a nursing ancillary, appeared. I often used to chat with Brenda, a kind gentle
woman with a wicked sense of humour. I remember her pouring a jug of water over me, by accident
of course, during one of my first infusions. She and I never forgot the experience, and we often used
to joke about it; I often used to pretend to hide whenever I saw her coming.

Brenda walked over to Ellen, pulled across a stool and sat beside her. Brenda held Ellen in her arms
whilst she sobbed quietly. No words between the pair were spoken, and Brenda sat with Ellen until
the sobbing and tears ceased. It seemed to be an age, but I guess it was about ten minutes or so.
Later, Brenda left briefly and returned with a “nice cup of tea”, which Ellen accepted gratefully. Ellen
sipped her tea and started reading her book. Ellen looked at me and smiled and both Lucy and I
gave her the thumbs up.

I had just witnessed a wonderful example of love and care for those in distress. No words were
spoken; they were not needed. It was simply the feeling that someone cared enough to take time
out during a busy morning to show love, compassion and support. It was an experience that I will
never forget.

Barrie Mahoney

This contribution—Intensive Care by Barrie Maloney— was published in theFriend Vol.181 no. 3
Jan.2023

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